Plan an Allocation of Your Friendship Time
Enter the weekly hours you want to set aside and the number of people in three separate groups. Count each person once. The result is a modeled allocation, not a record of where your time actually goes or an assessment of your friendships.
40/35/25 Is an Editorial Planning Example
This tool assigns 40% to the innermost group, 35% to the second, and 25% to the third when all three contain people. These weights are a product choice, not an empirical Dunbar rule or a validated distribution for healthy relationships. The group labels are organizers, not a requirement to have 5, 15, or 50 friends.
If a group is empty, its share is redistributed proportionally among the others. Monthly minutes per person are calculated as allocated weekly hours × 60 × 4.33 ÷ people. The 4.33 factor is an approximate weeks-per-month conversion. The calculator does not establish time investment as a leading predictor of which friendships survive.
What the Comparison Flags Mean
The comparison uses editorial minute bands of 360–600, 60–180, and 15–60 minutes per person per month for the three groups, plus count bounds of 2–5, 5–15, and 10–50. These are unvalidated comparison values, not healthy ranges, necessary hours, or decay deadlines.
- Above the editorial comparison: A group has fewer people than its lower count bound and modeled minutes per person exceed twice its upper minute-band value.
- Below the editorial comparison: A group has more people than its upper count bound and modeled minutes per person fall below half its lower minute-band value.
A flag is a prompt to inspect this example. It cannot tell you whether you spend too much or too little time with a person. No flag is evidence of a healthy or stable relationship either. The tool does not observe contact, reciprocity, care, conflict, or the quality of time together.
Choose Contact That Fits the People Involved
Use the numbers to consider a manageable next step: ask whether someone would like a call, suggest a shared activity, or agree to check in later. Group contact, messages, and one-to-one conversations can fit different preferences. This page does not rank their effectiveness or prescribe a monthly minimum.
Illness, work, caregiving, access needs, and a preference for less contact can change what is possible. Discuss expectations instead of treating a calculated number as an obligation. A pause or a decision to reduce contact can be appropriate.
Calculation and Sharing
The calculation runs in your browser without an account. After calculating, your numbers are encoded in the result URL. Encoding is not encryption: anyone with that link can read the inputs, and opening or reloading it sends the URL to the site. Do not use a result link for information you want to keep confidential.
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