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Questions about personal values
15 hand-curated question banks on personal values, each tailored to a specific relationship. What you ask your mom isn't what you ask your best friend.
A few questions from these sets
- Best friend Have we ever quietly disagreed about something that mattered and just not said it?
- Boyfriend What's a line you wouldn't cross at work, even if no one would ever find out?
- Coworker Have you ever actually refused to do something here — not would you, did you?
- Dad What did you most want me to learn that you could never just tell me directly?
- Daughter What's a belief you used to hold that you've changed your mind about?
- Girlfriend What's a line you won't cross even if no one would ever find out?
- Grandma When did you first disagree with something your parents believed?
- Grandpa Is there a value you held strongly that you've softened on?
- Husband When have you had to choose between being liked and being right?
- Kid Is there a rule at your school that only some kids seem to have to follow?
- Mom What did you most want me to learn that you could never just say to me directly?
- Partner If money means one thing to you at its core — safety, freedom, status, love, time — which is it?
- Sibling Where do you think you and I actually disagree on what matters?
- Son When have you stood up for someone, even when it cost you something?
- Wife Where do you draw a line you'd never cross, even if no one would know?
- Best friend
30 Questions to Ask Your Best Friend About Values
Ask your best friend about the lines they hold and the things they refuse to do - candid, reciprocal questions about what they believe and why.
- Boyfriend
30 Questions to Ask Your Boyfriend About Values
30 questions to ask your boyfriend about his values — what he believes, what he won't compromise on, and how it all shapes the relationship you're building.
- Coworker
50 Questions to Ask a Coworker About Values — the Ones That Are Safe to Ask
50 values questions you can actually ask a coworker: what they refuse to cut, who the work is for, and where the line runs between person and role.
- Dad
30 Questions to Ask Your Dad About Values
Ask your dad what he believes and why - the principles he tried to pass down, where they came from, and where he changed his mind.
- Daughter
30 Questions to Ask Your Daughter About Values
30 warm questions for a parent who wants to know what their daughter actually believes — her sense of fair, her lines, what she kept and what she set down.
- Girlfriend
30 Questions to Ask Your Girlfriend About Values
30 questions to ask your girlfriend about her values — what she believes, what she won't compromise, and what she's still working out.
- Grandma
30 Questions to Ask Your Grandma About Values
30 careful questions for asking your grandmother what she believes and why — the values that guided a long life, in her own words, before they go unrecorded.
- Grandpa
30 Questions to Ask Your Grandpa About Values
30 questions to ask your grandpa about values — what he believes, what he stood by, and the principles a long life taught him that he'd want you to keep.
- Husband
30 Questions to Ask Your Husband About His Values
30 questions to ask your husband about his values — what he stands for, what he'd never trade away, and how he decides when no one is watching.
- Kid
50 Questions to Ask Your Kid About Values — None of Them Have a Right Answer
50 values questions with no correct answer to collect: what is unfair at school, what makes a rule wrong, and what your child would actually give up.
- Mom
30 Questions to Ask Your Mom About Her Values
Ask your mom what she believes and why - the principles she raised you by, where they came from, and which ones she'd still defend to the end.
- Partner
32 Questions to Ask Your Partner About Values
32 warm questions about the load-bearing topics — money styles, family and in-laws, fairness at home, faith — without turning the evening into a negotiation.
- Sibling
30 Questions to Ask Your Sibling About Their Values
30 honest questions to ask your sibling about values — what the same house taught you both, and where the two of you quietly diverged.
- Son
30 Questions to Ask Your Son About His Values
30 questions to ask your son about his values — what he believes, what he stands up for, and who he's becoming as the boy you raised turns into his own man.
- Wife
30 Questions to Ask Your Wife About Her Values
30 questions to ask your wife about her values — what she'd never compromise on, where her lines are, and the beliefs steering choices you both make.