A reflection, not a verdict
"Should I end this friendship?" is a hard question to sit with honestly, and most quizzes that promise to answer it are really just handing you a label. This one doesn't. There is no score here that means "leave" — every result is a reflective band, and every band ends the same way: only you can weigh what this friendship is worth to you, today and going forward.
What the quiz can do is slow you down enough to look at five everyday areas clearly — respect, repair attempts, energy, values, and how much your shared history still anchors things — instead of letting one bad week or one good memory decide the whole picture for you.
The 5 areas this quiz looks at
1. Respect
Do you feel taken seriously when you bring something up, or do you find yourself filtering what you say to avoid a bad reaction? Respect is foundational — friendships can survive almost anything else if this stays intact, and rarely survive well if it doesn't.
2. Repair attempts
Every friendship hits friction. What matters more than the friction itself is what happens after: does someone reach out, does the disagreement actually get talked through, does raising something you didn't like actually change anything? A friendship with working repair can absorb a lot. One without it accumulates small wounds that never fully heal.
3. Energy
Notice how you feel before, during, and after time with this person. A flicker of dread instead of anticipation, or feeling more drained than recharged afterward, is real information — not proof of anything on its own, but a pattern worth paying attention to if it keeps showing up.
4. Values
This is about whether you still feel like this friend has your back, and whether you're still headed in compatible directions in life. Friends don't need to agree on everything, but a widening gap in what you each value can quietly turn into distance even when nothing dramatic has happened.
5. Shared history
History is not just sentiment — it's real weight, and this quiz treats it that way. If your years together still feel alive and worth protecting, that's a genuine anchor, and the quiz scores it as one: it gently pulls your result toward "rough patch" rather than piling on top of the harder areas. If the history feels more like habit than warmth, that's worth noticing honestly too.
Frequently asked questions
Will this quiz tell me to end my friendship?
No — never. There's no score or band here that means "end it". The result is always one of three reflective bands (rough patch, needs a real conversation, or worth honestly re-evaluating), and each one hands the decision back to you. A quiz can describe a pattern; only you can decide what to do with it.
Is this a diagnosis?
No — explicitly not. This is a reflective self-check to help you notice your own feelings about a friendship, not a clinical or professional assessment, and not a diagnosis of you or your friend. Only you really know your friendship, and a quiz can't decide anything for you. If something here worries you, please talk it over with people you trust.
What if I'm dealing with fear, control, or safety concerns instead of everyday friction?
This quiz is scoped to everyday drift and friction — questions about respect, repair, energy, values, and shared history. It deliberately does not ask about fear, control, threats, or isolation. If that's what you're navigating, please try the Is My Friendship Toxic? quiz or the Relationship Safety Check instead — they're built for that territory, and this one isn't.
What are the 5 areas this quiz looks at?
Respect (whether you feel dismissed or have to filter yourself), repair attempts (whether conflicts actually get resolved), energy (whether time together drains or recharges you), values (whether you still feel supported and trusted), and shared history (whether the friendship's history still feels alive and worth protecting, rather than just something you're holding onto out of habit).
How is the result calculated?
Each of the 5 areas is scored from its answers (Likert 1–5, mapped linearly to 0–100). Four areas score higher when they signal more concern; the shared-history area is reverse-scored, so agreeing that your history still feels meaningful and alive lowers the overall concern score rather than raising it — a strong, felt history gently anchors the result toward "rough patch" rather than compounding worry. The overall score is a simple average across all 5 areas, and that maps to one of three bands.
Are my answers saved anywhere?
No. All calculation happens in your browser. Nothing is sent to any server. The shared link encodes only your result band and anonymised 0–100 area scores — not your individual answers.
What to do with your result
Whatever band your answers land in, treat it as a starting point for honesty with yourself — not a fixed verdict on your friend, and not an instruction. If one area scored notably higher than the rest, that's usually the most useful thing to sit with first, ideally with someone you trust before you raise anything with the friend involved. And if you do decide to say something, naming your own feelings tends to land far better than any accusation.
If you're weighing something bigger than one friendship — a pattern across several relationships, or a decision that needs a fuller map of safety, effort, evidence, and values — the Stay-or-Go Decision Map walks through that in more depth. And if you'd like a gentle way to tend to the friendships that matter, join the Endearist waitlist.
Related tools
If the imbalance you're noticing is more about who does the work than whether to stay, Is My Friendship One-Sided? looks at reciprocity specifically. The Stay-or-Go Decision Map is a broader tool for any relationship decision, not just friendship. And once you know a real conversation is needed, How to Have a Difficult Conversation covers the framework for having it well.