For adhd
A personal CRM for people with ADHD — out of sight, out of mind is working memory, not a character flaw.
You love your people. You also genuinely forgot they exist for six weeks — and the shame of that makes reaching out harder, not easier. Endearist is external memory for relationships: gentle nudges, zero guilt mechanics, a journal that holds what your brain drops.
Externalize the working memory — that's the whole trick
ADHD brains don't lack love; they lack a reliable buffer. The friend who isn't physically in front of you genuinely stops existing for a while — and that's neurology, not neglect. The strategy that works for keys and deadlines works for people too: put it outside your head. Endearist is that outside place. Each person gets a page, each thought gets a journal line, and the app does the remembering so your affection stops depending on your recall.
Gentle nudges, never a guilt trip
You know the doom-app pattern: miss three reminders, earn a wall of red, avoid the app forever. Endearist refuses to play. There are no streaks to break, no overdue counters climbing, no notification shame-spiral. A nudge you miss just waits, as fresh tomorrow as today. The cadence is per-contact and yours to set loosely — "roughly every six weeks" is a valid rhythm. The bar is reachable on a bad-executive-function day, which is exactly when you need it to be.
Catch the thought in the ten seconds you have it
"Oh — Lena's exam was this week, I should ask how it went" has a shelf life of about ten seconds before the next thought bulldozes it. The relationship journal is built for exactly that window: open the person, type one line, done. No required fields, no categories to choose first, no friction tax on a fleeting thought. Months later, those one-liners are the reason your message says "how did the retake go?" instead of "hey, long time!"
The warmth score replaces the 3 a.m. shame audit
Without data, ADHD fills the gap with anxiety: everyone's mad at me, I've ruined everything, it's been too long to text now. The warmth score replaces that spiral with a calm, factual picture — most friendships are fine, two could use a hello, and "too long" is usually shorter than the shame claims. Reconnecting after a gap stops being an apology ritual and becomes a small, doable act: one person, one message, sent before the dread loads.
A tool, not a treatment — and honest about it
Endearist doesn't treat ADHD and won't pretend to. It's an external scaffold for one specific, painful failure mode: people you love falling out of working memory. That's it — alongside whatever else helps you, from coaching to medication to body-doubling, all of which are between you and your clinician. It's free up to 25 contacts so you can find out whether it fits your brain before spending anything, and €69 once if it does. No subscription to forget about — we know our audience.
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